It Is Not Shame For The Bandas To Have A Spare mom! For us we have "one!" The One! And The Only One! 

By Getachew Reda  San Jose, California

Ethiopia to us whether she feed us or starved us, whether she is Poor or rich, sad, stress or joy, Whether the world goes with her, degrade and conspire against her, Whether they like her or dislike her, that is not the factor for us to Love her or to Hate her. She is our mom, the mom and the only mom We have & the only mom we know and the only mom we came from. For Bandas it is not unusual to fantasize a faced mom. For us it is Unthinkable and unacceptable to create a spare mom. Since our Emotions are attached so tight, she is with us we are with her, Any time all the time. Her tears and cry is hers and ours. We laugh When she laugh, we cry when she cry, we felt depressed when she Felt depressed. That is how tight we are with our mom, the mom & The only one mom! The Bandas can forget the under go labor she went, but how Can we forget the under go labor for hours she went? 

The pregnancy of Dingil Mariam the Fiancé of Yosef! She went through long labor like any body else. She wreak havoc, make animal faces, ugly tooth-tooth faces, Go pale, go red, go dark, stranger turn to bears, beat her nurses & Mid wives, weep and focus! It is her work, her body's work, That is involved in its own goodness. Hard working marvel That gives everything to one TASK. The TASK that bring "Us" and the "Bandas" together to this world. How can we Forget this pain she went through? Amaze the Bandas came from the same mother we came from, But sadly they quickly forgot the pain she went through, to feed Them, to take them to school, to get them up to the adult stage To where they are now Doctors and Professors. But "us" we laugh or cry whenever she laughs or cries. The pain she went through for us was unbelievably painful. This is why we can't trade our mom for another mom. 

This is the only mom where we got & fed our breast milk That is why we always felt sick when someone forced us to Feed us false milk, which is not our mom Ethiopia's milk! Yes, she still feels pain, the chronic pain, the pain she retain during The labor for the Bandas to born from her. We have to stand beside her, Regardless of the pain, is it chronic or acute? We must fight the Instinct to resist the pain she retain and instead embraced it, move Towards it, work with what hurts the most. That is the secret to relieve her pain. The Meles's the Seyoums the Sibhats and the big Bandas, the old or the young Bandas Can lough when she cry, her pain is ours, her cry is our cry. We laugh when s he laugh, We cry when she cry. Bandas can have a spare mom, but WE can't have Another mom, because we only have one mom, that is the only mom we know.

THE ONE AND THE ONLY ONE MOM WE HAVE! ETHIOPIA! THE ONE AND THE ONLY ONE!

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